One question that has come up multiple times recently in our community is, “Lisa, how do I bounce back after troubling times?” Or, as I like to say, “How do I bounce back even when there’s a PIVOT or DISRUPTION in life?”
This is a very relevant topic and much needed right now as our world is experiencing so much change and disruption.
That’s why I wanted to share two powerful, juicy nuggets to help you bounce back and enhance your resiliency. I have personally used these techniques to get me through some of the most troubling times I have faced.
#1 Quit giving power to what knocks you down in the first place.
You may have heard me say once or twice or maybe more like one million times that energy grows where energy goes. So, when you have a conversation repeatedly about something difficult that has happened, or when you share the situation over and over with different people or post about it on social media, you’re actually giving energy to the situation or circumstance that knocked you down in the first place.
“Let me tell you what happened to me. Let me tell you what I’ve been through. Let me tell you what’s going on in my life.” Sound familiar? Every time you do that and focus on the situation, you’re actually giving the situation MORE power. Now, let me be clear I’m not discounting what’s happened to you. I’m just challenging you to start focusing on moving forward and shifting the power to what you are doing in the now.
When I’m going through something, I love to design my life on the other side of it. Sometimes that’s really hard to do when you’re inside the challenging financial time or the toxic relationship or the raw emotions. However, if you can lift your head up long enough to see over the horizon, paint a picture of what it looks like on the other side, and get sold out on your next best season, then your current situation won’t be as challenging to navigate through.
#2 Give yourself 1,000 second chances.
We tend to extend grace to others but give very little of it to ourselves. So, I challenge you to give yourself 1,000 second chances. And every time you get to 999, I want you to press the RESET button. Have grace with yourself. Your job is not to get it perfect. Your job is just to get better on your path to being the best version of yourself.
What is important to understand is that your best five years ago is not your best today. So, don’t judge yourself based on what you know now when you look back at a decision you made in 1998 or 2010. Part of your bounce back is to stop and say, “Hold on I get another chance. I know I’ve done this at least 10 times or 20 times or 30 times. But this is life. I get another chance. Every single time, you get another chance to manage your finances. You get another chance to fall in love. You get another chance to design your perfect weight or health. You get another chance to be spiritual.
I learned to stop pursuing perfection and instead began pursuing the best version of me in this season, based on what I know right now. I often tell people I’ve never been the smartest person, but I am the most resilient. The difference between me and most others is that they stopped at chance #68, while I say, “Let’s press the reset and give it another go.” I want to invite you to do the same.
Remember, In good times or troubling times, this is your home. We are your tribe, and I will always be your sister in prosperity and possibility.